My Favorite Self-Help Stuff

I often wish my life had more balance. But no — it’s way out of whack. Which makes me feel like I’m failing somehow. Yet I don’t think I am. Balance is not really possible anymore in this era of more, more, more and total everything overload. And the only way to cope? Alternating priorities. Can’t do it all at once!

I had to think of that when I looked at my woefully neglected blog and realized I hadn’t posted anything in OVER A MONTH! Eeeek!

Sorry about that. What happened? My priorities shifted a bit: I got ready and then went on that trip to New Zealand I’ve been writing about. There, among other things, I had a conference to get ready for (prepare presentation) and participate in (it was GREAT and well worth the time I put in).

What I mean is this: New Zealand was great! Seeing my friend again was great. And the conference was just fantastic. Better than any of the previous editions of that particular conference that I’ve been to. In part, that was due to the conference organizers who did an amazing job. The people who where there. The great papers. But also to me. I think I’m less shy and less easily intimidated than I used to be years ago, and so I enjoyed things a whole lot more, connected with lots of people, new ones, as well as people I had known for years and years.

Wellington was windy, like it always is this time of the year, but also gorgeous. And the view from the apartment where I stayed was just phenomenal. I’ll post a few pictures in an upcoming blog post.

And then I caught the NZ flu or something. I’ve been overdosing on a range of flu meds for more than a week now. And I’m still coughing up a storm.

Also, it did a real number on my poor ears on the flight back (right now I’m in San Francisco, typing this in an internet cafe). A piece of advice: avoid flying with stuffed-up sinuses at all cost. It hurts!

So about that balance thing: The idea is that if we do things right, we can really have balance in our lives. Poppycock. Most of us have way to much stuff in there to balance it all and still sleep.

So what to do? Have those things take turns. So while I was in NZ I focused mostly on NZ things, my friend there, the conference, the gorgeous scenery. And now that I’m on my way back home, I’ll get back to where I left off with my other endeavors.

I’m also working on a new project (more about that soon — for now it’s strictly under wraps).

And the most important bit: don’t feel guilty if you can’t do it all, all of the time. Cycle through your priorities, giving each one a turn at the top of the list so stuff gets done, and then have it slide to the back burner while other items take the top spot — for a little while.

It’s the only way. We are human, and we forget that there are limits in how much we can do. Our minds can conjure up fantastic goals and plans, but our bodies have limitations. And the more we respect and honor our bodies, the better our chances to reach our goals.

Like Abraham says, the most important thing is that we feel good. If that sounds selfish to you, just think about it for a minute. What will you be able to do if you don’t take care of yourself first?

Having been on quite a few plane trips recently, watching that safety video over and over, I can see it vividly in front of me:

“Be sure to put on your own oxygen mask before assisting other passengers!”

I know you’ve seen it too. What’s the message here? In order to be of any use to anyone else, we need to take care of ourselves first.

More soon. And yes, I’m baaack! I’ll be posting here at least once or twice a week, if not even more often.

Have a great day! And give yourself a break

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Remember the empty plate club? Nowadays, what we really need is the too much on my plate club…

I wrote a book about how to stay sane under stress, but that doesn’t mean that I don’t also find myself in way over my head situations. Too much on my plate club indeed.

What to do? Step one: calm down. And yes, you can find out how in my ebook, “Instant Stress Relief Strategies,” and also on this blog if you browse around some… Or if you go look up my ezinearticles.com articles, which you can find by clicking on that cute little ezinearticles.com Expert Author button on the right.

Or you can go to http://www.elisabethsarticles.com.

And then, there’s step two: take stuff off that plate!

Yes indeed. Just because it’s on your plate doesn’t mean you have to eat everything on it, empty plate club rules notwithstanding! You can take some and pass it on to others (delegate) and you can also renegotiate deadlines.

If worse comes to worst and you really just can’t get everything done, you can still practice damage control. Which of these things will cause you the least trouble if you skip or postpone it?

One VERY handy tool here is Abraham’s Placemat Process (see the Abraham-Hicks section in the Categories list).

That will help you pick out the ones that absolutely MUST be done now, and increase your chances that you actually get those done and will feel good about it. Then repeat the process with the next batch the following day, and so on and on.

And soon enough, you’ll find that things may get done without you. You’ll find out that some of the stuff has become moot. Or someone else already did it. Or it didn’t need to be done after all. I remember a letter I was supposed to write and it just got lost in the shuffle. I felt guilty about it for quite a while, until I got an email from that person that said that the other letter hadn’t actually been necessary, but now would I please write one. So I did. Funny how some of these things work out.

And in a worst case scenario? What will happen if you really can’t do it? What would happen if you fell over with a heart attack? They’d cope, right? Well… you DON’T have to get a heart attack first.

So learn to practice portion control when you allow stuff onto your plate (yeah, I know, I find it a challenge too). And if there’s too much on it already, take some of it off the plate

And yes, sure, if you like, there is this handy dandy ebook I wrote on how to calm yourself down instantly (or very quickly anyway) when you’re so stressed that you can hardly catch your breath anymore.

You can find it at Instant Stress Relief Strategies. Those strategies work. I’m using them myself and they’ve helped me (and my friends, and some of my students) through some very rough times.

I hope you have a very relaxing day!

Elisabeth

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Yup. I finally launched my make money online step-by-step email course. You can get in on it if you like, and you can read more about it on my favorite web stuff blog.

Or, you can sign up right here:

As always, I will keep your email address safe and will never share it with anyone. You’ll get about two lessons per week and an occasional special message or announcement or freebie. That’s it.

It’s free right now, but eventually, I’ll turn it into a paid email course. But if you sign up now, it’ll be free for you as long as you stay subscribed.

Is it right for you? If you’re fairly new to internet marketing and you would like to learn more about it, or if you feel overwhelmed by all the stuff you read, then you may want to give it a try. If you don’t like it, you can always unsubscribe.

For more detail, once again, just go to my web stuff blog and read all about it. See you there.

Elisabeth

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I’m traveling to New Zealand! Yay!

My fundraisers to pay for the trip worked even better than I had expected, especially that Warrior Special Offer where I offered my writing services at a rock-bottom discount — I’m still totally swamped with writing gigs, which is why I haven’t posted much on my blogs lately as I’m working my way through the assignments one after the other. I hope I’ll get them all done by the time I leave!

Who knew! But they’re very interesting and good practice. Hopefully all that practice will make me a lot faster too eventually.

There’s another lesson here I think. Be careful when you offer your labor too cheaply. My thinking on that now is “don’t” or at least, put a cap on it. I only have so much time and energy, and if there’s too much to do for the time available, I’m right back in stress land.

So anyway, I got my tickets, the ones from San Francisco to New Zealand and back, and also the ones for Virginia to San Francisco (I bought those last night).

Why two separate sets? Two reasons (at least):

1. I needed to buy the NZ tix as soon as possible because those seats fill up fast. That’s not so much the case for the VA to SF tickets. And it’s a way to stretch out the expense a bit.

2. I used to live in the SF Bay Area. So this way I can schedule a stop-over in San Francisco for a couple of days and spend time with friends there, which is GREAT! I’m really looking forward to it.

Now back to writing And also to writing my conference paper on the persuasive strategies in internet marketing, a research topic I became interested in when I kept wondering how they did this: I read an email and then the next thing is I’m scrambling to get out my credit card, and before I know it I bought something else.

Does that ever happen to you too? I’ve gotten a bit more immune, but it still happens. So now I’ve decided to turn it into a scientific study. How do they do that? It’s very interesting! I want to learn how to do it too, so I’m really double-dipping here

Well, back to work. Y’all have a fabulous day!

Elisabeth

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Yes you can. How? The same way you accomplish anything else.

Find some role models. There’s just that tiny little problem: where can you find some Millionaire role models? Yes, it can be a bit challenging at times, but it will be sooo worth it.

Consider that we supposedly make about the average of the money that the people around us make.

And our salaries haven’t even kept up with inflation…

But there ARE Millionaires and even Billionaires. And how many do you really “need”?

Here’s how you can get the attention of your favorite millionaire:

1. Work on your mindset. Nobody likes to hang out with someone who begrudges them their money.

2. Work on creating streams of income.

3. Spend time with really rich people. Where? How? Go places where they hang out. Opera, Theater, Classical Music Concerts, and certain charities.

4. Do NOT hit them up for money.*

(* UNLESS you’re raising funds for a cause they care about.)

Instead, go to one of my favorite billionaires‘ website and download your FREE inspirational virtual CD:

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It’s quite an inspiring program!

Enjoy and have a great evening.

Elisabeth

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Chanting for manifestation? I read about it in Tina Turner’s autobiography quite a few years back and was intrigued. But I didn’t really follow up. Part of me didn’t really believe it. That was years before I discovered Abraham.

Last Saturday, I had an experience that made me a believer (or at least a tentative believer):

A few friends from Unity got together to work on manifesting money and other things they wanted in their lives. Of course, I’m interested in that as well, as you know from previous blog entries, especially for my New Zealand trip (see below) (and also for the bills etc.).

The meeting included a chanting session, led by Gino, a Buddhist (don’t know what descriptive noun to use — I’m not sure he’s a monk, and “expert chanter” definitely doesn’t sound quite right).

In any case, he explained the meaning of everything, the chant as well as the altar we sat in front of and how it would work, and proceeded to lead us in our chanting Nam-Myoho-Renge-Kyo for about 30 minutes. It was an extremely powerful experience.

Before I left for the meeting, I had frantically tried to list some stuff on Ebay but wasn’t able to because my camera’s battery was dead and I had to wait until it charged.

I had also set up a listing in a forum where people sell each other their products and services, but wasn’t holding my breath. The response to my previous efforts there had been underwhelming to put it politely. I didn’t even make my listing fee back.

Yet when I returned home after the chanting and checked my email and discovered that I had received THREE orders on the forum, two of them quite substantial! The results from that evening totalled more than 40 times more than what I had received in the entire time before.

I had done a better job with the marketing aspect, but still, the timing was really uncanny. (and no orders since either! I will have to chant some more).

I was definitely impressed. Gino had told us to expect results, but so quickly, and so clearly? I’ll be chanting regularly now. I think I can do it in place of some of my meditation sessions…

You may want to try it too. Just be sure you get the most important part right, which is to think of what you <b>want</b> to happen while you chant Nam-Myoho-Renge-Kyo.

Will it work if you chant something else? I really don’t know. My opinion? Why mess with success?

The rest of the evening included treasure map making (depicting the things we wanted to manifest in our lives, and very yummy food!

And now, if you’ll excuse me, I need to do my chanting for tonight!

P.S.: Maybe I should add a chapter about chanting in my stress-relief ebook…

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Thanks for reading, and I look forward to learning more about how I can make this blog and my newsletter even more interesting for you.

Have a fabulous day.

Elisabeth

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What does the Law of Attraction have to do with stress management?

A lot! Stress is among the many feelings that basically push the incoming good away and attract bad stuff.

While we may not always exactly attract what we worry about, we are likely to attract something similar, and, as one of my favorite spiritual teachers once said, “Believe me, it will be adequate.”

So there is much to be gained from getting a handle on stress. But how? All the things that people tell you about, good nutrition, planning ahead and deep breathing just feel like Band-aids when the going gets really rough.

And retail therapy can get you into even bigger trouble when your finances are at the root of your stress.

Here’s what I’m going to do about it:

I’m going to create a special edition of my ebook that is focused specifically on stress and how to relieve it. It’s called “Instant Stress Relief Strategies” and you can get it at www.InstantStressReliefStrategies.com

At the moment what will happen when you go there is this:

You’ll see the new “sales page” but the book that will appear for download is the old version.

Not to worry. For a very limited time, i.e., until I have the new version finished and uploaded, you will get BOTH the old version “Feel Better Quickly” AND the new version “Instant Stress Relief Strategies” for the price of one. I’m even working on a special bonus that I will sell separately, but IF YOU BUY THIS WEEK, I will send it to you for free when it is ready. Seriously.

What is it? Well… I told you I’ve been there when it comes to stress, and at one point, I was literally on the verge of a heart attack with a blood pressure of 220/110 and killer triglycerides of 551. I was scared out of my socks of taking blood pressure meds, so I researched alternative blood pressure lowering information and took concerted action…

In my special report, I will share all the things I did and that worked and maybe even a few new ones I’ve discovered more recently.

So get it soon if you want that report. Everyone who buys my ebook THIS WEEK will get my special blood pressure lowering report FREE as soon as it’s ready.

Why the hurry? Because I’m trying to raise some money fast for my upcoming trip to New Zealand (to participate in a conference). More about that in a new post above…

But whether you buy my book or not, do remember that lowering your stress levels will go a long way towards making the Law of Attraction work for you so much better. Oh, and it will lower your blood pressure too!

Have a fantastic weekend!

Elisabeth

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Is your life too stressful? If the answer is yes, you probably won’t need any help with figuring out if you need a break. You KNOW.

But sometimes we’re in denial. We think, oh, it’s just a temporary thing and I’ll make it through this one too, but then there’s the next one and the next one, and our bodies, designed to fight or flee, which worked just fine way back in the early days, just can’t cope.

We were definitely not designed for long-term non-stop stress. Some of us have learned the hard way where this can lead. If you haven’t, do yourself a favor and don’t keep going till you find out for yourself. It’s not pretty.

So here are a few signs that should tell you to slow down — fast:

1: Racing heart and shaky hands, especially if that happens frequently.

2: Trouble sleeping. Thoughts racing through your head. Waking up in the middle of the night making to-do lists.

3. Neck pain, upper back pain, any back pain for that matter. My chiropractor tells me that out-of-whack vertebrae or, like he likes to call it, subluxations, are caused by the three T’s: trauma (we knew about that one), toxins, and thoughts.

Yes, thoughts. Thoughts of the variety that cause us stress. Have you ever been in the middle of being all stressed out about something and suddenly your back goes out? Or your neck hurts, Or your head?

4. Numbness and tingling in arms and/or hands (and legs too, I suppose). Another one I wasn’t aware of. I was a bit worried about it but figured I just pinched a nerve. Guess what. It’s all part of the body’s reaction to too much stress.

5. You feel sick to your stomach, or have any other gastro-intestinal irregularities. All of these can be caused by stress as well. Remember the tummy ache you had as a kid when you were afraid to go to school on test day or because the schoolyard bully had it in for you?

6. And if your weight has been moving up and up and up, that too may well be due to stress. Cortisol, the ultimate stress hormone, causes the body to store fat (remember, it’s an emergency — you may need it someday, or so the body thinks).

And that’s just for starters. If you find yourself plagued by any or all of the above, take a break.

Sure, deadlines may loom, but think about it: What will they do when you fall over with a heart attack? They’ll figure something out. Why not take the break earlier and NOT have that heart attack first. It’ll be easier on everybody, even from a straight cost/benefit point of view.

So if you’re too stressed to think straight, take a break already. Your work will go so much better when you’re feeling more relaxed and your body is back in balance.

For ways to actually lower stress and regain some peace of mind, and maybe improve your mood too, you may want to check out my FREE ebook with seven stress-lowering and mood-boosting tips. Okay, I admit it. It’s a shameless ploy to get you to take a look at it and then hopefully liking it so much you’ll want the real deal.

But mostly, I hope you’ll enjoy my book and find it helpful. So please, do take me up on my offer and get my special trial edition of Feel Better Quickly right now.

And feel better quickly

Have a great day!

Elisabeth

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