My Favorite Self-Help Stuff

I was just rereading my last blog post and the comments and found myself caught up in pondering the bit where I talk about resistance.

And that reminded me of “allowing.”

I remember the first time I was told I should just “allow.”

Uhm, what do you mean, I would ask, and none of the answers were very helpful.

That was at a time when I was learning to do Quantum Touch Energy Healing, and allowing was key to making it work.

I still could get it to work, but the more I focused on “willing” it to work, the less it did.

Fast forward a few years…

I discovered Abraham, and I finally “got” allowing.

Abraham’s explanation was pretty good. But I REALLY got it when I read Erin Pavlina’s definition of allowing.

She wrote that it was much like in a restaurant, or if you ordered pizza or something (don’t remember the exact example though maybe it was both).

Once you call them and order the pizza, you basically stop thinking about it until it arrives. You don’t call back and inquire about the progress of your pizza. You don’t think frantically about what would happen if the pizza won’t show up.

You don’t focus on the pizza, draw images of the pizza, and otherwise obsess about the pizza. You just let it go and allow it to arrive in due time.

And of course, it does.

And it’s much the same with most everything else.

Now, when I do Quantum Touch, I no longer even think much of the outcome. I just focus on the breathing and whatever technique or meditation I’m using, and don’t even think about whether it will work or not.

Interestingly, it works much better now.

And so, when I’m hoping for a certain outcome that I don’t have control over, I do my thing and then I meditate and visualize what I want, but without giving it a whole lot of attention. Just a bit of joyous anticipation.

And maybe some gratitude.

I think that’s the secret.

The language is interesting though… If we obsess about something, we don’t think we are resisting it, even though we are. Because when we obsess, the underlying feeling is fear that we can’t have it. And negative expectations are… resistance.

While relaxed positive expectations — and even none at all — are allowing.

Do you ever wish you could manifest your desires NOW? What if you’re in a jam and you need it yesterday?

Have you also noticed that it just doesn’t work?

There is a reason for that…

When you’re in a jam, your energy exudes “emergency” and “need” and unfortunately, the law of attraction will only sendyou more of that.

When you’re worried about something, you’ll attract more of what you’re worried about.

So what can you do?

It’s a catch 22. You need to find a way to feel better before things caqn better. And it’s a huge challenge. After all, it feels very counterintuitive.

I remember years back when I first was told that I had to be happy with where I was before I could get what I really wanted. I thought that was absurd. I was pretty ticked off at the “messenger” who told me that.

The thing is, he was right.

So what should you do?

Here are a few tips:

1) Breathe

2) Take a break or do something you enjoy. A walk, a bath, a cup of coffee, music, and so on.

3) Work with Abraham’s emotional scale (see sidebar for posts on that).

4) Pray and/or meditate, preferably both.

5) Have fun

6) Imagine you had it already and what that would feel like. Put yourself into that emotional state.

7) Let it go. Allow. Turn it over to the Universe/God.

Remember, you can’t rush things. But the less you resist them, the faster you’ll be able to attract them.

The EFT World Summit 2 has truly been an experience (and continues to be). I listened to almost all the audios as they happened, and tapped along. I feel cleansed and renewed already. And it’s not quite over yet. There are a few more freebies available each day for another few days, so go check it out:

EFT World Summit 2

And you can get the whole thing on downloadable MP3s for less than 5 bucks a program if you so choose, along with some great bonuses!

Among my favorites was Patricia Carrington’s Choices method and well, there were so many wonderful other sessions, I will have to just write about them over time, one at a time.

The reason why Patricia Carrington’s stood out for me personally was because she really expanded my view of how to use EFT.

Traditionally, EFT was developed to reduce or remove negative feelings etc. Carrington uses it to increase good feelings.

I already knew about tapping on the positive, which I learned from Carol Look and Brad Yates, but Carrington took it some important steps further.

If you’re familiar with the Law of Attraction, you can immediately see the benefits of such an approach. We attract what we feel, and the better we feel, the better the things we attract.

This is all very nice, but what if we don’t feel so hot? What if life is rough and we feel very justified in wallowing in self pity, thank you very much.

It’s that old Leslie Gore song all over again– “It’s my party and I cry if I want to!”

And in a parallel vein: “I’m feeling miserable and I’m well within my rights to wallow in my misery.”

Well… we may be within our rights, but how is it serving us? Not so well, right?

The problem with that attitude is that we stay stuck in those feelings of misery. Bill Burns says that we do that because it feels familiar, and getting away from it makes us very uncomfortable.

I say, let’s get over it. I much prefer to feel good, and since Patricia Carrington’s method can get me to snap out of it when I need a bit of help in that area, she’s now my new best friend, or at least, my new favorite EFT teacher.

In addition to Carol Look, and Brad Yates, that is. Oh, and Jessica Ortner, who has created a very cool tapping sequence that she made available as a download. It’s about overcoming Fear of Failure, Fear of Criticism, and Impatience. Great stuff.

You can get it here if you act fast: EFT World Summit 2

All I can add is this: Happy Tapping!

And thanks, Nick and Jessica Ortner for putting this Summit together. It rocks!

Elisabeth

P.S.: For another way to snap out of it, check back here in the next day or two for my new post on Alan Cohen’s new book!

Wow! The EFT Word Summit is getting better and better each night.

Today, we have two new amazing programs. Right now, I’m listening to Patricia Carrington talk about tapping in positive memories and feelings to make the Law of Attraction work a LOT better.

This is especially useful during times of stress and distress about the issue at hand.

She says, it’s important to take snapshots of when good things are happening and you have positive feelings about the issue, i.e., money, and then tap it in, saying “I want more of this positive feeling”

Makes sense to me. I’m tapping

And then there’s Rick Wilkes who will talk about Childhood trauma.

Those will be up till 8 p.m. tonight, Thursday, EST, and after that…

Woohoo. Brad Yates, whose work I love, and someone else whose work I will probably love by the time I’m done listening to her program!

Don’t miss this.

This summit totally rocks:

EFT World Summit 2

And yes, these audios are all FREE to o listen to, like I said before.

But what if you want to listen to them again? Well.. you can, but then you’ll have to pay, though considering the value it’s really worth it.

You’ve got the choice between a downloadable version, whcih comes to about 5 bucks per expert and a physical version, which will be 10 bucks per.

Go there now and listen in… You’ll like it.

Tap tap tap

Elisabeth

P.S.:

In accordance to the new FTC rules, I have to tell you that I will get a commission if you get those if you go there through my link…

EFT World Summit 2

Have you ever picked up your iPod or turned on the radio (or TV) and the exact thing you needed to hear was playing right then?

That’s what just happened to me.

Earlier today, I had been listening to an interview and then I went on to my day’s work. Hours later, I picked up my iPod to go for a walk before it got dark. And I noticed it was playing….

Apparently I had forgotten to turn it off, and with the earphones you don’t hear it playing unless you’re pretty close (at least not at the volume that I tend to use).

I checked and it was playing Dr. Robert Anthony’s ” Allowing vs. Resisting” from his “The Science of Deliberate Creation” program.

It was EXACTLY what I needed to hear right then and there, so I listened to it several time, during my entire walk. Right now, I’m listening to the next segment.

It’s not that I didn’t know this information. I HAVE listened to his program before, and, of course, I have listenend to dozens of Abraham CDs. I’ve read a bunch of books, from Joe Vitale’s to Michael Losier’s books, plus Abraham books, and so on.

Still, it helps to be reminded occasionally that the way to create change is to focus on what we do want and not on what we do not want.

So now I’m doing just that

But isn’t it funny how life sometimes puts things in front of us with perfect timing? Coincidence? I think not.

Here’s another interesting incident I remember from quite a few years back — back when I was getting a lot of my info by way of listening to tapes on my car stereo.

One day, I was driving along and when I arrived at my destination and turned off the ignition, the last thing Roger Mellott said on his “Stress Skills for Turbulent Times” Tape was “Do what you say you value.”

This, he said, was the ultimate key to stress reduction.

Now I had listened to this tape quite a number of times, but I had never noticed this particular phrase. But now, with it being the very last thing before I turned the key, it practically boomed in my brain. And I spent a lot of time over the following few weeks thinking about what I needed to change in my life to get into better alignment in terms of how I spent my time.

So I believe that obviously these things are not coincidences. In some way, we attract what we need to hear, at last if we pay attention.

And so, today, I am going to pay attention to Dr. Robert Anthony. It’s time to get back to focusing on what I DO want, and to finding joy in every moment.

May our days be filled with joy and serendipity.

Elisabeth

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Does The Law of Attraction really work?  I think so.  But here’s the scoop:

I just found this really cool article about it on Twitter:

http://www.youaretrulyloved.com/enlightenment/the-deeper-purpose-behind-the-law-of-attraction/

Check this out and let me know what you think.  The thing is we’ve all been going about getting what we want the hard way.  Well, most of us have.  And I’m the grand master at doing things the hard way.

In fact, I think I’ve had a deep down feeling that I only deserved things I got the very, very hard way.  It’s sort of a justification for why I got them.

And now I’m learning that I was going about it the wrong way.  I should approach things with much more ease.  To focus on what I want, enjoy the idea of having them, and then mostly do what seems to be the next step etc.

I’ve learned that from Bill Burns years ago, but didn’t fully "get" it until I’ve been studying Abraham-Hicks and the teachings of Unity.  And yes, I do have relapses…

But things do go so much better when I focus on the positive, on what I want and banish thoughts of negative possible outcomes from my consciousness as much as possible.

While doing my part in making things happen.

So here goes…

Oh, and how does stress figure in with the Law of attraction?  Well, doing things the hard way causes stress, and stress practically keeps the desired results from you.

So one step towards getting somewhere is to get a grip on stress.  Obviously, there are many ways to do that.  If you want to know one way, you can either sign up for my free report at any of the sign-up forms right here, OR you can go to http://www.FreeStressTipsReport.com and sign up over there.

And I’m just working on a new edition of that ebook, and if you still get the old version, you’ll get the new one automatically (unless you unsubscribe before I have a chance to send it to you).

So let’s all relax into attracting what we desire

Happy attracting!

Elisabeth

Visualize prosperity and take inspired action — and you’ll see results.

My self help blog is coming back to the prosperity angle for a bit…  After all, cash flow is a crucial ingredient in this society.  And reading the paper can put a serious crimp in your style.

So I’m going to do a few things:

1) Put the focus back on prosperity, the law of attraction, and stress management, individually and in combination.

2) Put together a teleseminar (or two or three) where I’ll provide some great tips and information on how to do that — quite possibly with some cool surprise guests.

3) Take lots of inspired action. You’ll be reading about some of itright here or in my newsletter.  If you’re not subscribed yet, what are you waiting for?

Go here and get your FREE ebook and subscription:

http://www.FreeStressTipsReport.com

4) I just got a really cool ebook on how to make $100 a day online.  20 different ways of doing that.  And it’s all by highly respected veteran internet marketing gurus.  Cool stuff.  But the best part is that I can turn around and sell the ebook myself and share the info as well as the wealth (check it out right here):

http://www.make-money-online-step-by-step.com

And the best thing: if you get it, you too will have your own ready-made product you can sell instantly and earn 100% of your investment back with the very first sale…

The info on how to do that is right there on the download page you’ll receive either through PayPal or in your email after the purchase.

Is the book good?  Yeah! Very.

I bet there are several ways in there that you could start right away.  I’ve used several of them myself.

So let’s get prosperous no matter what the economy seems to say. All it takes is some inspired action.

P.S.:  You don’t HAVE to take the action I suggest — there’s lots of other stuff you can do.

BTW, if you prefer to save money rather than bring in more, I’ve got something for you as well:

http://www.SaveMoneyAllYear.com

P.P.S.:  My teleseminar on Stress, Prosperity, and the Law of Attraction:  This Thursday at 9 p.m. EST (or 6 p.m. Pacific time). Details coming up!

Music — and singing — is a big uplifter of the spirit — and it raises our vibrations too. And what a better occasion than Easter to really go for it.

It feels almost inappropriate to mention that stress relief is also a side-effect of singing, but it really is — and very much so.

I joined the Easter choir at Unity this year.  I used to hesitate — didn’t think my voice would hold out all the way through — but when I took a chance I loved it.

My voice did fine too.  And talk about uplifting.  It was just such a joyful experience, I’m now wondering when I can join another choir.

Of course, our music director’s choice of material helped with the uplifting bit.  Where I grew up, some of the songs are actually a bit depressing.  Not here though (not at Unity anyway).

I know I’ll join the Christmas choir, but Christmas is way too far off.  I don’t want to wait that long!  Maybe there’ll be another opportunity… Or I’ll have to find another choir.

Or practice violin again.  That too, in either case.

So if you’re looking for a way to raise your vibrations (to help you attract the good stuff) try singing.  In a choir.  Or just in the shower.  It works either way, but I think the effect of singing in a group is synergistic, making it even more powerful than the sum of the individual parts.

Elisabeth

P.S.:  Not sure your voice is up to it?  Check this out: http://www.drkrecommends.com/singorama.php and you may well be singing a solo next time you have the opportunity — and wow them too!

My (self help blog’s) favorite Law of Attraction book? Aside from Abraham’s “Ask and it is given”?

Staying focused on keeping up those vibrations and attracting the good stuff can be a challenge when faced with “reality.”

And so I am starting a resource library of sorts of the most helpful tools to help me (and you) stay focused on what we really want to manifest in our lives.

There are quite a few I like, and I’ll write a post about each of them over the next month or so (with my daily posts, I need lots of stuff to write about), but today’s favorite is this one:

Michael Losier’s “Law of Attraction.”  Why?

It’s a REALLY fast read.  And it’s oh so userfriendly.  It comes with charts where you can write down, oh, I don’t think I should give it all away!

In fact, there are downloadable additional charts on Michael’s website.

Just imagine, you get a simple 1-2-3 system that makes you magnetic to all you want. It’s way cool.

So what’s the system?  Figure out what you don’t want, then quickly move on to what you want instead.  The “don’t” just serves as the launcher of the rocket of desire (in Abraham’s term), but the focus has to be on what’s wanted.

Losier calls it “Clarity through Contrast.”

And then make a desire statement.  I printed out multiple copies of mine and will keep them handy to reread them often. Maybe post them all around my apartment.

The purpose of that desire statement, by the way, is not to wrestle it into your life but to lift your vibrations so your desires can manifest all by themselves.  All you have to do is “allow.”

Same thing that Abraham said about visualizing your perfect dream scenario.  It’s there to raise your vibration, not MAKE it come true.  If you try too hard, after all, you only push it away.

Which brings us to the all-important next step, which is covered in the following section: allowing.

It’s something I used to find really troubling, but I’m getting better, thanks to so many good resources.

In fact, I’m going to have to go and re-read it. Michael makes it seem so easy.

Highly recommended as a very practical and easy to follow Law of attraction book.

Goodness. I can’t believe it’s been this long.  My self-help blog has been AWOL for a whole month, and that was because the Law of attraction was working even better than I had bargained for.

I was trying to attract freelance work, and I was so effective with doing so that I got very much behind with a lot of other things. I also need to do a bit more tweaking in terms of exactly what I attract, but overall, I’m very happy with how things have been going (albeit a bit exhausted).

If you’re curious about the kind of work I’ve been attracting, check out my other blog, either http://www.LinguisticLeverage.com or http://www.WriteProVA.com — the latter one redirects to a specific page of the former.

I’m also now moderating a network at http://www.Ryze.com, a very cool networking/business networking site.  My network is Business Online/Offline Success for Women, also known as BOOST4Women.

The T in BOOST still needs to be filled in, and the contest just ended, so the result will be announced shortly.

You can find this network here:

http://BOOST4Women-network.ryze.com/

And if you’re a woman with a business, please come and join us.  Men are welcome too, though they do need to be aware of the fact that Ryze is primarily a women’s networking group.  Primarily, and not exclusively.

Anyway, you’ll be reading more about my journey as I learn how to balance all these exciting happenings with still keeping up with other things in life, personal stuff, friends, fun, self-care, just self-help stuff in general, like what I’m writing about here on my self-help blog.

In the meantime, I’m practicing what I preach in my stress book http://www.InstantStressReliefStrategies.com — if it weren’t for EFT and aromatherapy & Co, I’d never make it.

BTW, I’m thrilled that one of my articles is rising to the top 15 most viewed at http://www.Ezinearticles.com

If you want to check it out, go to:

http://budurl.com/antistressquotes

It’s one of my favorite articles and if features some of my favorite quotes — the ones that keep me going when the going gets a bit tough.  I hope you’ll enjoy it too.

Thanks for reading, and come back soon.  I’ll make a big effort to post more regularly now!

Have a fantastic February.

Elisabeth